Happiness Score
After a couple weeks feeling exhausted from work and life, I made an impromtu trip to the Bay Area last week, to visit friends I hadn't seen for almost 2.5 years. It amazed me how happy I was, being with the people who really knew and cared about me - friends who sat down and talked with me until 1AM in the morning. During one conversation, we talked about the people who, just being with them, replenished our energies - like the one friend I had in New York City. At that time, I didn't tell those friends, that they had this healing effects on me too!
I usually entertain the thought that, if happiness were quantifiable, a happy person would have a positive (+) happiness rating, and a sad, miserable would have a negative (-) happiness rating. Think about it, if you feel anxious, inadequate and insecure, your happiness score would be negative, right?
In my opinion, it is so important for one person to understand what makes him/her feel happy, and become adequately happy on his/her own. That happiness would then shelter that person from all the external influences.
Learning from a book I read, where the author advised to think about a relationship as a bank account, I also try to deposit into my happiness account everyday, and not exchange too much of this currency for other things, such as work, greed, and selfishness.
On the other hand, how can a negative (-) happiness person bring joy to the person s/he loves, if s/he hasn't even filled up her own happiness reservoir? Without self-love and self-respect, that is precisely the root cause of a toxic relationship. S/he might as well not be in a relationship and learn to love herself first.
Therefore, before making the decision to love someone, let's make our own happiness rating as positive (+) as possible.
So then, my future special someone, will you be happy - as much as you can be - before you meet me? :P
Los Angeles
03.02.2019
PS: Back to LA, and I still don't know why and where this energy drain comes from. Gotta try to fix this.
I usually entertain the thought that, if happiness were quantifiable, a happy person would have a positive (+) happiness rating, and a sad, miserable would have a negative (-) happiness rating. Think about it, if you feel anxious, inadequate and insecure, your happiness score would be negative, right?
In my opinion, it is so important for one person to understand what makes him/her feel happy, and become adequately happy on his/her own. That happiness would then shelter that person from all the external influences.
Learning from a book I read, where the author advised to think about a relationship as a bank account, I also try to deposit into my happiness account everyday, and not exchange too much of this currency for other things, such as work, greed, and selfishness.
On the other hand, how can a negative (-) happiness person bring joy to the person s/he loves, if s/he hasn't even filled up her own happiness reservoir? Without self-love and self-respect, that is precisely the root cause of a toxic relationship. S/he might as well not be in a relationship and learn to love herself first.
Therefore, before making the decision to love someone, let's make our own happiness rating as positive (+) as possible.
So then, my future special someone, will you be happy - as much as you can be - before you meet me? :P
Los Angeles
03.02.2019
PS: Back to LA, and I still don't know why and where this energy drain comes from. Gotta try to fix this.
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